Can you speak more on presence and how you command it in moments of great stress? I’ve developed a crippling phobia of public speaking. I meditate, practice yoga, breath work and somatic work, and have gone to many therapists. This deep fear sets in and robs me of my potential to really follow my dreams. I am so desperate, pleading to the universe. Your divided attention technique has given me the closest feelings I’ve had to being in control. Can one take it further? If so, how?
Dear Liz Spitz,
I find the work we do has to be done daily, and so by the time you’re onstage and about to have fear of public speaking, you are already skilled in calming your nervous system. The Guided by Biet practices, whether somatic, meditation or breath work, all lead to a soothing of the nervous system. However, we will always find new things to be afraid of on this Earth. We will always have new material. The journey never ends. When we can face our stressors with open arms and eat them, so to speak, we become friends with all of life’s circumstances and also all of our own flaws, demons and character defects. It is so vital that we form this new relationship to the variety of life’s experiences. Otherwise, we will always be way too selective. Hope this helps!
Financial fear really brings me down. Whenever I compare myself to others, or when I have to curb my own spending, I feel “less than.” What do you recommend around this, and how does someone find security in a world that feels so insecure?
Some of the wealthiest people I know, some of whom are my clients, have been known to feel insecure. It really isn’t how much your net worth is. Security is an inside job! If you really look at it, money, the world, who you are in relation to it—it’s all an illusion. The reason I know this is I am someone who had nothing and went to having it all. How does that happen? It happens because the illusion is popped. Whenever you are in financial fear, it’s so important that you remember who you are. Don’t compare yourself to anyone. Just remind yourself that you are made out of star stuff. Remember that you are made out of infinite abundance. In knowing this, you will burst the illusion and create worlds.
It’s all about food. I have done all the laws in your book. I have gone to retreats around the world. I have done it all, and I still feel like I can’t make peace with food or my body. What’s the deal? Is mastering this a prerequisite for getting the whole spiritual thing?
Sadly it is, if it is for you! We all have our weaknesses. For some of us it’s drugs and alcohol, for others it’s sex, while still others it’s shopping, etc. If your weakness is food, then that’s the thing you gotta surrender one day at a time. As addicts, though, we need to find replacements for these coping strategies. What has helped me most is the Guided by Biet somatic work. This kind of work allows us to feel and transform what the craving actually is, and instead act on that other thing. It’s a journey, though! Go gently on yourself, but remember, your bliss and ease will depend on your transformation of this addiction. I am cheering you on and here for you!
I want more control of my emotions, so I am not so anxious and scattered. Do you feel that breath work, specifically your breath work system, can help with this issue? I feel so done with it!
It’s totally human to be fed up with anxiety. The thing to remember is that anxiety is caused by exiting the present moment. How do we do that? We either worry about what’s to come or we regret what happened before. The secret is staying here now. No better way than returning to the present than breath work. Especially my four-minute power breath that totally reminds you in an instant who you are. With that said, keep seeking. Read what you can, watch what you can. Take in as much of what’s good as you can, so you can shine in your life in the present moment! That’s all we’ve got, once we truly have it!